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UNEXPECTED SCANDAL!

It has always been a struggle in our community to express our true ideas and thoughts and this has always been one of our rights that we never enjoyed. Every word we say must be filtered before it comes to the surface and we must not stir controversial issues fear of them affecting people who are susceptible to be affected.

We live in a community where people prefer to bury their heads in the sand to speaking out their minds. They don’t want to be marked one way or another for saying the wrong thing by societal standards. We care so much about appearances that we turned into hypocrites who always say the (societal) right things.

We grew up in a society that worships taboos and censored issues and there are things that are just not material for discussion or even thought. Our fears make things worse than they really are because by choosing to ignore a problem, or in this case; live in denial and act as if these things are not happening, this makes the problems more embedded in the roots than we like to believe.

I was really thrilled the first time I came across the great magazine; VIVA. I said to myself: finally, some people who care enough to shake things up and dig deeper than the surface to cleanse our lives and souls from within. Finally, some people who are brave enough to face us with realities we have been denying for generations. Finally, some people who will teach us and the generations to come how to be free from the inside out and think and act the right way.


This is the pulled magazine cover (Click to enlarge)

When you have some pioneers who take it upon themselves to drive change in a society that needs a makeover, when you see these people taking the huge responsibility of saying what we think and facing our worst fears and demons for us, when you find such a group, you are obligated to give them your support and spread their words to those who are in desperate need to hear them.

Yet; we still find people, who force custody unjustly, and they use their authority to block and/or ban whatever they feel like, justifying the horrendous act as doing what is best for the society. What century are we in exactly?

Pulling the VIVA magazine from the shelves is only proof that we are still afraid to face our demons. We know they are there but we are terrified to confront them and at the same time; we fear someone else doing so. The real fear here is our fear of change; it is more convenient to rot in the fake comfort zone that we have designed for ourselves.

This month's issue has some sensitive topics that are considered huge taboos in our communities. They touch subjects like LGBT issues. Refusing to talk about these things does not make them go away and certainly does not mean that they do not exist because they do. It is time that we pulled our heads from the sand and stood up to problems that are working up the society and work on solutions with courage and open minds and hearts.

As a reader of VIVA; I stand here shocked and saddened by what they are going through at the moment. Forcing censorship on their opinions and ideas and trying to shut them up by pulling their articles from the market when all they want is to make positive change in our culture. Freedom of speech is suffering in our world.

The magazine is being reprinted as we speak and of course minus the artciles that were the reason it was pulled out in the first place; I must say that this is really a sad thing to witness!

I am in no way defending the issues that are subject to censorship as we speak, I haven't even had the chance to read them yet, however; I am outraged by the scandalous act that left dear friends at VIVA oppressed and unjustly shut down, and as it is known where freedom of speech is concerned; I might not agree with what you have to say, but I will definitely defend your right to say it, and that is exactly what I am doing for each and every one of you guys at VIVA.


On May, 11, 2006 10:55 AM , 7ala said:

I totally agree with you khalidah, even if we don’t agree with every thing they say but they have the right to say it …
Pulling the magazine from the market is a very silly and underdeveloped act.
If I as a reader feel so bad then I can imagine how the writers do feel!

I don’t know when we will learn to face not to hide!

On May, 11, 2006 11:28 AM , bakkouz
from Jordan said:

These are the exact acts that will always leave us amongst the third world countries, we will never achieve true democracy if you continue to supress freedom of speach.

On May, 11, 2006 11:44 AM , Nada
from Jordan said:

The problem in our society is that we do not respect differences and choices other people make. Whenever someone comes with a new idea or reveal certain truth, we start attacking, or i prefer to say "the society" starts attacking whoever faces his /her own truth, it could be, well I am sure that we are easilly controlled when blind and deaf.
The society prefers us to be misled than being misfit, well I'd rather be a "misfit" in my society than being misled by the lies.
I know what does it mean to feel shut up, I know what does it mean to be different...it is always difficult at the begining, but i do believe as long as there are young people like you and the other youth who spread their thoughts that reflect high level of maturity, things will be better at the end...i have faith in US, it is always difficult to be distinguished, but the more those close minded people fight, the more determined we will get...I wish us more strength to fight...

On May, 11, 2006 12:52 PM , kinzi
from United States said:

As a VIVA contributor, I thank you Khalida! I'm working on a piece now that is controversial, and having second thoughts if it gets this kind of treatment!

As someone mentioned on Lina's post, perhaps good will come from this.

On May, 11, 2006 2:48 PM , Dar
from Jordan said:

Ya3ni wallah , something stupid prohibit publishing such stuff will provide no soloution for the problem , i hope that they know that ! mo bs bed7ako 3ala 7alhom !
CheeerZ!

On May, 11, 2006 3:59 PM , Hal
from Jordan said:

Khalidah, thanks for posting on this, and I look forward to see the differences between the pulled magazine and the new one to come, seeing as you have the original. Do please scan it for us when you can!

On May, 11, 2006 5:35 PM , hatem abunimeh
from United States said:

Follow The link below it says all that needs to be said.

http://www.alghad.jo/?news=93232

On May, 11, 2006 9:41 PM , Natalia
from United States said:

As a VIVA reader, I am very upset at this news. Then again, who knows? If the magazine would not have been pulled, there may have been violent reprecussions. I certainly don't see Jordan as a violent society, but I feel like we're all walking on eggshells these days. :(

On May, 12, 2006 12:59 PM , EXzombie
from Jordan said:

..............?!?!

is this for real....?!?!

how stupid can that be....?!?!

now how can I order that issue, or does anyone have a copy hidden somewhere....!!!

On May, 12, 2006 1:04 PM , EXzombie
from Jordan said:

I just wanted to say somethinf from my heart....

fuck sensorship, and fuck the sensorshipers.....!!!

keep your eyes on the ball......!!!
and best of wishes to the cattle.....!!!

On May, 12, 2006 10:07 PM , Devil`s Mind
from Jordan said:

And how is this story different from the time an entry was pulled from this blog? (sorry, i had to ask!)

On May, 12, 2006 11:08 PM , Khalidah
from Jordan said:

Devil's Mind, No need to be sorry, it is your right to ask and to get a straight answer.

In theory; it is not that different. However; pulling that entry was explained to everyone at the time and it was done after receiving feedback from the majority, so people had a chance to read it and say their take on it, hence it was pulled and no one forced me to pull it; I answered the requests of visitors and readers, besides, it was not an article of great significance like the ones we are discussing here .. my post was a very silly tag and it will not be fair to compare it to the articles in the magazine that have significance and touch very sensitive topics in our communities and those who worked on them spent a lot of time to prepare them and get them out to the public (regardless of the content or my take on it) .. besides; i noted in this blog that i pulled that specific post and explained why; the matter at hand is completely different ..

Again, in theory; you might see them as similar issues, but I cannot compare the incidents ...

On May, 13, 2006 12:33 AM , Devil`s Mind
from Jordan said:

Well, i think the "majority" of Jordanians dont like hearing about gays so it obviously is ok to censor that issue of VIVA!! besides VIVA is such a "silly" magazine, i think they better even shut the whole magazine down...

On May, 13, 2006 12:40 AM , Khalidah
from Jordan said:

Devil's Mind, did you ever read any of the articles published in VIVA? How did you judge it was silly?

BTW; not all the articles were about gays, besides .. not talking about the issue does not mean it does not exist an certainly will not mean that the problem is solved. If they don't like hearing about it, they at least have the right to choose to read or not .. and here they were deprived that right; you and me included!

VIVA covers a wide scale of topics ranging from relationships, poverty, community, culture, women, books, fashion and many others ... how is that silly?

On May, 13, 2006 1:14 AM , Devil`s Mind
from Jordan said:

I think you'r too tired and exhaused... I suggest u take a good sleep, and tommorrow re-read my comment, and then we'll see if u still would give me the same speech u just gave

On May, 13, 2006 8:45 AM , Iman
from United States said:

<<<BTW; not all the articles were about gays, besides .. not talking about the issue does not mean it does not exist an certainly will not mean that the problem is solved. If they don't like hearing about it, they at least have the right to choose to read or not .. and here they were deprived that right; you and me included!
>>> I did not read the article, however I relatively agree with you on what you said above... But. social responsibility is a very intergral element is reporting/writing...content is very crucial...so if it was advocating gay rights in Jordan or the Middle East region, then pulling it off the shelves is the right thing to do and a form of social responsibility. We do not need to have advocates of homosexuality and gay rights in a Muslim(higlight that)country/region. But if the article was addressing this as a growing problem in the region, possible reasons, ways to handle it then it would be an entirely different issue.

On May, 13, 2006 11:37 AM , Haitham Sabbah
from Bahrain said:
On May, 13, 2006 7:39 PM , Devil`s Mind
from Jordan said:

Well, i think the "majority" of Jordanians dont like hearing about gays so it obviously is ok to censor that issue of VIVA!! besides VIVA is such a "silly" magazine, i think they better even shut the whole magazine down...

Obviously, (or not so obviously?!) i was sarcastically mocking your reasoning, which is basically flawed!!

consider what you said:
pulling that entry was explained to everyone at the time and it was done after receiving feedback from the majority.

my post was a very silly tag


So basically, YOU are saying that if something was silly and the majority didnt aprove it then its OK to censor it; which i obviously object to!

One might see an article\entry\magazine\show\...etc as silly, while others dont; The majority shouldnt be given the power to limit freedom of speech

On May, 13, 2006 7:51 PM , Khalidah
from Jordan said:

Devil's Mind, you are free to think whatever you want .. but please don't belittle the cause here by personalizing it that much ...

People make mistakes and I am one of them .. consider that I made a mistake and for God's sake .. forgive me for it .. but let us not lose the edge or power of what is happening on a wide scale by personalizing the effort and digging holes into a genuine attempt to defend freedom of speech ... by making it sound hypocrite and flawed!!

Let us just say that I learn from my mistakes like everyone else .. and please if you have more comments regarding that infamous entry of mine, direct it to my personal email .. and if you have something to say regarding this post, you are welcome to add your comments ... otherwise .. please do not cause others to lose focus!

Thank you

On May, 20, 2006 2:42 PM , Laith Zraikat
from Jordan said:

You say "Our fears make things worse than they really are because by choosing to ignore a problem"

The articles did not present these issues as a problem, but on the contrary, they were presented in a manner that says "In your face Jordan". The objective was clearly to provoke and offend people.

Although I think the magazine is very promising and addresses many good topics, I think they went a stray with this one.

If they want to talk about a problem, they should try and win sympathy for its victims rather than start the article telling a story which stat with two boys in bed. And they should not have photos of the boys all over each other... it was clearly and simply to provoke.

On May, 20, 2006 2:54 PM , Khalidah
from Jordan said:

Laith, this might apply to the "Forbidden Love" article .. but what is wrong with the article about female sexuality? or that was a provoke as well??

Again, the objective of this whole post was NOT to discuss the articles themselves .. rather it was about censorship and obviously these are two different things ..

If we start justifying what the content was and what made them censor it ... we are applying the exact same mentality with which they were censored to begin with .. and a lot of us are fighting to overcome this and promote transparency and accountability to help solve deep rooted problems in our society ..

Let the article reach the readers and let them express their feelings about it exactly as you did here .. and then focus on the real issue .. they get credit for starting to talk about the topic .. the rest is up to everyone who got the message ..

I still believe that the magazine is still promising and I will continue to read it because it touches a lot of issues that concern us .. it is our duty to give them honest feedback when they go astray rather than condemn them altogether ..