They say: if you don’t want to feel disappointed, don’t raise your hopes or don’t even hope at all! Don’t expect much from others and you will not be subjected to one of the worst feelings ever existed; the feeling of being let down and deep disappointment.
No matter how hard we train ourselves to expect the worst for everything and everyone around us; we cannot but build a few hopes here and there. Unfortunately; people have made it an art to not meet others' expectations or fulfill their hopes.
Human psychology is so complicated
and this shows in ways that are never predicted. Sometimes; you would believe
that you are a good judge of character and that you can see through people to
the extent that they can never deceive you, however; some people get to
surprise you after all precautions and preparations.
We tend to think highly of people we like and we tend not to believe that they would ever let us down intentionally, but the fact forces itself on us once and again that these we care about so much might not feel the same about us and to them we are just another person passing their lives for one reason or another. Therefore; when they act with no consideration whatsoever to your feelings and/or reaction, you cannot help but feel the bitterness of disappointment.
What amazes me often that many people actually weigh and evaluate things from their own point of view only, without considering other factors; they only see what's in it for them and never think of consequences.
In this modern age where the machine is taking over many a role of people, we seem to have automated our own way of thinking; we seldom consider the human factor as human, and as the machine has calculated output whenever we give certain input, so should people. So if I was to give a machine the input of A and B, according to the calculations, predictions and equations, the machine must give an output of C and D, no tolerance for mistakes here because this is the way it is supposed to work, hence no disappointment from the outcome.
When dealing with people, it is
juvenile to think that if I give a person the input of A and B, the outcome
must be C and D, why? Because a human being is a bundle of feelings and
emotions that are run by the most complicated machine; the brain; no two people
are expected to give the same result and that is why some exceed our
expectations and some actually disappoint us immensely.
How many times did we convince ourselves that X would never do this to me because he is my friend only to be surprised later that X was responsible for many of our own heartaches and setbacks? How many times did we give out of love only to be received with rejection and denial from those we care the most about?
These are everyday incidents and we have all suffered from such things at any point of our lives. Some of us have even vowed to themselves never to trust anyone again and to be very careful when dealing with others, but one of our most important features as humans is that we forget, sometimes it is a blessing to forget sour things but sometimes it is not wise to forget what stings like a bee; we should always remember how much it hurt when we let our guard down so that we will not be in the same position again.
From my own experience; no matter how nice others may seem, they are nice as long as you are of benefit to them, once this benefit is over; they really don’t have a reason to be nice to you and so they won't be.
I learned that when people want something from you, they will suck up to you and show you their best; once they get what they want; adios baby!
Disappointment is the thing that
happens to newlyweds when they discover that the one they married is completely
different from the one they fell in love with or were engaged to.
It is what happens to you when you have worked so hard on yourself to graduate and then once you achieve that, you don’t find practical life easy enough to live. It is what you feel when you cannot find a job and when you do and think that all your problems are over; they shock you with the bad treatment you will get and how they enslave you for the few bucks they give you.
Disappointment is a part of our lives and no matter how much it drags us down; we need to get up again and fight to live the kind of life we want. We cannot allow it to break us in half just because we are not strong enough or the shock was big enough. It is one of the many things that we as humans need to deal with and maybe the best way is precaution; always manage our expectations to take the good and the bad and never trust anyone too much because only those you trust are capable of hurting you so much.
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Yeh I think disappointment is a part of our lives as you said, no one has never been disappointed by other people.
bs elmohem elnas elly bekono kteeeeeeer close l2elek w be7ebboke kteer w be3nolek kteer fi 7ayatek , hadol eza khayyaboky 7ayotrok elmawdo3 fi nafseitek athar kbeer , w sho ma nseety m3 elwa2t ma bero7 tamaman la2no eja min nas 3'er 3n kl elnas . I hope no one will get disappointed by some one that really means alot to him/her.